How to be happy and successful ?

There are no lack of self-improvement websites and books to teach you how to be happy and successful. However, if learning about happiness and success was all it took to become happy and successful, wouldn't everybody already be there?

To be happy and successful person requires much more than making simple changes to your life. It requires from you long term continuous commitment and diligence.

Have you know noticed that generally, unsuccessful people tend to talk about what they don't want, their worries, and their problems most of the time? As they tend to always be thinking about what they want, successful people usually talk about their desired goals.

Most successful people have a goal oriented plan and the self-discipline to accomplish the tasks on their plan. They believe in themselves and do not care what others think of their plans. They are usually always in a positive motivated state of mind.

When life throws successful people a curve ball, they do not lose their continuous commitment and diligence, they simply start over and utilize their curve ball as a learning experience.

A lot of unsuccessful people simply try to find others to blame for their problems. They become engrossed in the television or a project so they don't have to think about their life. They talk often about why they "can't" do what they want to do. "Only if" is constantly on the mind of an unsuccessful person.

What a lot of unsuccessful people lack is motivation. Most have not found their "true calling" in life. Once you find your "true calling" you become excited to set your goals.

You become even more excited as you achieve them. This is when you become motivated to achieve more goals. The more passionate you are about what you are doing, the more motivated you become. You live, eat, and breathe your goals each and every day, just like a successful person.

Self-discipline then kicks in and allows you to always concentrate on your goals. It also allows you to revise and upgrade your goals with any new information you may have learned. It is self-discipline which allows you to buckle down and get your daily job done.

Once you become accustomed to achieving your goals, you will find yourself constantly talking about achieving them, just like successful people. You will notice a change in your attitude about your life. You will find that you are actually not such a negative person after all.

The key to success, for an unsuccessful person, is to find your "true passion calling," then have the motivation, diligence, and self- discipline to travel on the road to success.

The road towards success will take time and patience and definitely will not happen overnight.

10 Habits That Will Make You A Millionaire

What does it take to become a millionaire? Lottery winners aside, becoming wealthy has nothing to do with luck. Let’s look at 10 ten habits of self-made millionaires. These comes from millionaires I know, and they are living proof that these habits will make you millions.

1. Millionaires Are Frugal

The wealthiest people I know are also the cheapest. They buy used cars for reliability, not image. (According to the book The Millionaire Next Door, the number one car brand among millionaires is Toyota—not Mercedes or BMW!) Millionaires pack their lunches. It takes money to make money, and you can’t get the money you need to invest if you spend it.

2. Millionaires Think Big

Few people are surprised when they make their first million. After all, it doesn’t come easily. But long before reaching their goal, millionaires know they want to get there. Rather than looking forward to an annual 3% raise, millionaires dream of working for themselves. Rather than serving 100 customers, millionaires see tens of thousands of accounts.

3. Millionaires Take Calculated Risks

Whether it’s investing in a stock or cashing in a 401(k) to start a business, millionaires take calculated risks. In these risks, the rewards of success are far greater than the costs of failure, and the chances of success are good.

4. Millionaires Network

Few people reach their potential alone. Millionaires build powerful networks of contacts in all areas of life. Millionaires know that their next employer, customer, or partner may be anywhere.

5. Millionaires Don’t Pay Interest, They Earn It

Millionaires learn the crippling costs of debt and avoid it at all costs. On the contrary, millionaires save, invest, and even lend money to others to earn interest themselves. Want to take the first step to building your own fortune? It’s simple: Open an online savings account now and start stashing away extra money—automatically—every month.

6. Millionaires Are Focused

Millionaires work feverishly towards their goals at all costs. The difference between dreamers and performers is not the number of ideas one has, but how one focuses on executing the best ideas.

7. Millionaires Do Whatever It Takes

The most inspiring success stories among all the people I know involve incredible sacrifice. From sleeping in cars between two jobs to forgoing personal relationships to get an education or build a business, millionaires don’t simply delay gratification; millionaires endure pain.

8. Millionaires Educate Themselves

It doesn’t take an Ivy League education to become a millionaire, but it does take a desire to learn. It doesn’t matter how you learn – from a mentor, night classes, or books and the web – but ongoing learning is critical to lifelong success.

9. Millionaires Lead

No surprise here, the same qualities enabling people to earn millions make them natural leaders. It goes back to

the decision to become a millionaire in the first place: The resolution to carve a new path rather than follow the flock.

10. Millionaires Are Generous

Don’t expect your high-rolling neighbor to shower you with gifts. Chances are she’s donating to far worthier causes. It’s just another perk of having a million in the bank: you get to make a substantial difference in charities of your choice.

If we live up to this principle, I bet there is no reason why we can't be a millionaire.

Ten Things Successful People Know That You Don't

Everybody is a born winner. It is just the matter of fact that many of us have not realize it yet. If you can still read this, it means that you are a winner as you beated million guys before you finally reached the womb. But why not everybody is success in this world? What is the secret? What do extraordinarily successful people know about life that you don’t? Are they just a lot luckier, smarter, or harder working than you? Or is there something inherently different in the way that they approach life that propels them to unimaginable heights? Here, I would like to reveal 10 things that successful people adopt in their life journey. It contains the distilled wisdom from many years of trial and error by some of the most successful people modern society has seen. Some of what you’ll read might surprise you. Get inspired and get going.

Number 1 : You are the CEO of your own life

You are completely responsible for the level of success that you experience personally and professionally. You are equally responsible for the lack thereof. Your success will be defined by the vision you create and the choices that you make to support it. There may be no such thing as “control” in this world, but there certainly is “responsibility.” Take responsibility for your actions, your choices, your future – and watch success unfold.

Number 2 :It is next to impossible to exceed your own expectations

If you want an extraordinary life, you have to set extraordinary expectations. Make extraordinary choices. Do extraordinary things. Henry Ford once said, “If you believe that you can do a thing, or if you believe you cannot, in either case, you are right.” Whatever you expect – of yourself, your career, your relationships, your life – sets the limit of what is possible for you.

Number 3 : When you believe something is impossible, it becomes invisible

The truth is that you don’t begin to know what’s really possible. The list of impossible things proved possible by the will and creativity of the human spirit is ENDLESS. We have walked on the moon. We’ve broken the sound barrier. We’ve outrun the 4-minute mile. We’ve created human babies from single cells in a plastic dish. We’ve compressed millions of bits of information into something the size of a safety pin. Just because you can’t see it with your own eyes doesn’t mean it can’t happen. Possibility is everywhere.

Number 4 : Success has nothing to do with luck

Extraordinarily successful people don’t waste their time wondering IF their dreams will come true someday. They concern themselves rather with HOW they’re going to make them happen. Ask yourself the same question. To get what you most want out of life -- how fearless are you willing to be? How creative are you willing to get? How much are you willing to compromise (or sacrifice)? Extraordinarily successful people didn’t get that way through prayer or luck or pixie dust. They just wouldn’t take no for an answer.

Number 5 : Life gets much easier when you have a clear and personal definition of success

Only you can truly define success for yourself. Your personal definition of success is not subject to the whims of your friends or family, your community or your culture. It’s not seduced or distracted by advertising, and it’s not confusing, arbitrary or vague. It does not define you or box you in. Your personal definition of success frees you to enjoy life completely by releasing you from priorities that are not relevant or meaningful.

If you don’t define success for yourself, rest assured that it will be defined for you. But it probably won’t feel quite as good.

Number 6 : The things we call ‘mistakes’ are life’s greatest learning opportunities

The more mistakes you make, the more you learn. Why is it that children have permission to make mistakes, but as adults we are so ashamed of taking a misstep? Wisdom does not come from never erring. It comes from learning, adapting, and growing as a result of the many bumps along life’s road. It’s one thing to make the same mistake over and over again – but where’s the shame in making new mistakes? Was anything extraordinary ever created on the very first try? Successful people are always making mistakes, because they know that without mistakes there are no successes.

Number 7 : You reap what you sow

The successful person’s definition of insanity: “Doing the same thing over and over again but expecting different results.” If something isn’t working for you – if it’s not delivering the intended result – then STOP DOING IT. Try something new. Change your approach. Get creative.

Stop asking ‘why me’ and start asking ‘how can I approach this in a new way?’ You can’t expect to plant oats and get barley. So stop the insanity!

Number 8 : The only ‘wrong’ decision is no decision

Perfection is not your friend. Perfection will keep you spinning your wheels, endlessly ‘refining’ things until… your window of opportunity becomes tightly sealed shut.

WAKE UP! There is no such thing as ‘perfection’. Or… from another vantage point… EVERYTHING is perfect. Either way, make your decision and DO SOMETHING. If the fear of doing something WRONG is what’s paralyzing you… refer to #6 above.

Number 9 : You are what you think

Notice the internal dialogue that’s going on in your head at this very moment. Are you chastising yourself for not being more decisive? For taking the ‘safe route’ or for making the same mistake twice? YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK. Your thoughts create your emotions, which in turn impact behavior. Your behavior over time shapes and molds your LIFE.

Successful people develop their ability to monitor and mediate their own thoughts. They are skilled at noticing their own negative self-talk and systematically replacing it with positive affirmation; with a vision of their success. They refuse to accept limits on their potential. They expect the best – from the world and from others. They take full responsibility for the choices they make and the thoughts they think.

So if you want to be extraordinarily successful, start thinking of yourself that way.

Number 10 : You already have all the answers (you just don’t know it yet)

When was the last time you trusted your instincts? Or followed through on something that was “just a hunch”? Successful people develop an extraordinary capacity for recognizing, trusting and acting on their own intuition. They become highly skilled at tuning in to their inner voice and tuning out the multitude of external and often contradictory influences.

Does this mean they’re always right? No. Nobody is ALWAYS right (don’t tell my husband that). But with each mistake, that sense of intuition becomes more and more finely tuned.

If you’re facing a tough decision or a challenging issue, stop looking to others for advice and answers. Tune into your own inner voice. YOU ALREADY HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS. So listen carefully. There is always one true inner voice. Trust it.